Maria Arpa
This week
Couples
Plus…
Maria’s Midweek Mindfulness
and
The Wednesday Whisper
The joy and pain of relationships
Over the years I have worked with couples to mediate and facilitate their communication. Our intimate couple relationships are very often full of expectations, assumptions, and frustrations. When these are communicated as demands the potential for escalated conflict increases.
One cause of conflict is the incompatibility of self-sufficiency and dependency. One partner leans on the other expecting to be held and the other steps back and away. The leaning partner accuses the other of not loving enough, and the other partner steps back even further. This creates a painful cycle of one partner locking themselves into their prison of self-sufficiency (not needing love from anyone), unable to reach out, and the other accelerating their pursuit to keep out the noise that they may not be loveable. Both partners acting in ways that fulfil their respective prophecies.
So much unnecessary human suffering born out of the inability to hold each other’s hearts and use words in tenderness.
Maria’s Midweek Mindfulness
DRM mastery creates the conditions in which a couple can individually and together unlock their hearts, release their fears and be messy together as a joyful experience of coupledom.
The Wednesday Whisper
When you are moving towards intimacy, do you tend towards self-sufficiency or over dependency? Are you aware of the behaviours that manifest in these states?
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