Maria Arpa
This week
Taking offense
Plus…
Maria’s Midweek Mindfulness
and
The Wednesday Whisper
The journey of healing
One thing I’ve learned on my own journey is that where I once used to take offense at a jibe, an insult or a criticism directed at me, I now understand that the person is actually expressing something that has very little to do with me.
How did I make that transition?
The answer lies in healing. I take offense because something in what the person is saying is touching an emotional wound in me that triggers the original pain. As I uncover my emotional wounds and find safe spaces to talk about that pain, I embark on the process of healing and come to find self love, and love for life which in turn allows the healing to take place.
Now, whatever someone says, I am more able to focus on what they are trying to express because when a person speaks, the first and most immediate need is to be heard. And often when people really want to be heard for something they find painful, they weaponise language as if to transmit the pain they are feeling, and watch someone else acting it out for them.
Instead of taking offense, repelling or retaliating, I find life is easier if I can receive their message with empathy because, in that place I do not give my power away, or try to over power, I just support whatever it is to find a path to healing.
Maria’s Midweek Mindfulness
When we train in DRM, we understand that we can only love and support another person to the extent that we can love and support our self, and do the inward journey begins.
The Wednesday Whisper
Have you take offense recently? Could you have chosen to understand it differently?
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